7 Steps To Overcoming Frustration
Whether you’re 5 or 90, or anywhere in between, there is a good chance that overcoming frustration is something you have to deal with on a regular basis. It might be due to a computing device deciding to restart itself moments before a big presentation, waiting for ages on the phone to get through to a support team, someone else cutting you up on the drive into the office, or someone not behaving the way you would like.
Frustration occurs when life is not going the way we would like.
Considering how little control we have over most of the things that frustrate us, it is not surprising then that we frequently feel frustrated.
Use this process to overcome your frustration:
See frustration with yourself as a positive sign. If you are frustrated with yourself, then that is great! You believe you should be doing better. If you weren’t frustrated at all, then you are doomed to continue living your current life.
Think about the things you have intentionally changed in your life previously. It is highly likely that you were frustrated before you were motivated to change.
Decide what you want to happen instead. Frustration is just a signal that things are not the way you want. There is no reason to dwell on the frustration. Decide on how you would prefer things to be. What is the outcome you would prefer over the current situation?
Notice whether the frustrating event is within your control. Many irritations are outside our control or influence and you need to let them go! Learn methods to deal with these and focus your actions on what you can control.
For example, if you’re frustrated because you are stuck in a traffic jam, then there is little you can do about it – unless you can fly! Take a deep breath and let it go. Think about something funny or something that makes you happy instead.
If you can control it, what can you do to fix it? Then take action and do it – unless it is one of those answers that pop into your head in the middle of the night, if so write it down and take action as soon as possible.
Ensure your view of the situation is accurate. Be certain the situation is as it appears to be. If you consider that information comes flying at you at a rate of 11Mbps and you can only physically take in 126bps, then maybe you’re missing something. Maybe you misunderstood someone else’s 126bps view of the 11Mbps. How many assumptions are you making? Verify those assumptions you have made.
List the possible solutions. What can you do to make the situation better and resolve your frustration? Consider all of your options and decide which is the most viable. Consider solutions for situations where you can control or influence the outcome.
Put your solutions into action.Now you can start resolving the issue instead of just being annoyed by it. Make a plan and begin executing it.
Sometimes we get carried away and spend too many resources on a solution. It might be easier to toughen up a little bit and deal with it.
Look to the future.If this situation is something that’s likely to happen again, make a plan to prevent it from happening again.
Ask yourself why the annoying situation happened and what you can do to put preventative measures in place. It might be as simple as vowing to never go shopping again during rush hour.
Feeling frustrated? Life doesn’t always go exactly according to plan.
Find a solution to your frustration whenever possible and begin taking actions that will begin to resolve the situation. Just starting those actions will help reduce your frustration.
Remember, if it is something you cannot control or influence (eg: Brexit – although some folks like to believe they can) and if you can’t do anything to resolve the situation, acknowledge it and then move on.
You may not be able to control the event, but you do have control over your frustration level!
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7 Steps To Overcoming Frustration